I AM MARRIED BUT I STILL THINK ABOUT MY EX

SHE: I have a secret problem

COUNSELLOR: What is it?

SHE: I often think of my ex

COUNSELLOR: Your husband knows this?

SHE: No. I am scared of telling him. You know how men are egotistical. Him having the knowledge that I think of another man will make him flip and insecure. He will think I am not yet over my ex

COUNSELLOR: Are you over your ex?

SHE: Yes I am. I can never go back. I have a good husband. But I can't help thinking about my ex

COUNSELLOR: When you think about your ex, are the thoughts largely sexual and intimate?

SHE: Absolutely. I think of him largely during sex. Don't get me wrong, my husband is so good in bed, but at times my mind wanders and I think about my ex. How he used to massage me, lick me, pounce on me. I recall our moments on the carpet talking till late. I recall his random phone calls. I recall how he used to spank me. Sometimes I day dream and smile about him even though he really hurt me. He cheated on me and that is why I broke up with him

COUNSELLOR: I see

SHE: Is it that I don't love my husband fully? There are times I have masturbated to thoughts of my ex

COUNSELLOR: Soul ties

SHE: What?

COUNSELLOR: Soul ties. You are battling soul ties between you and your ex

SHE: What do you mean?

COUNSELLOR: Ever wondered why it is difficult to forget someone you had sex with? Break ups hurt the most when two people have engaged in sex. That is why a woman can keep running back to a man who uses her and beats her up because they have sex, a man can keep a wrong and toxic relationship going because of sex, that's why people get blinded by affairs that they can't see their marriage falling apart, that is why an old flame you had sex with can show up right now and you two connect instantly like the years apart didn't change the connection

SHE: Soul ties!

COUNSELLOR: Yes. Sex first starts in the mind, then comes the emotional connection which leads to the excitement of a physical connection, if you act on the physical connection it leads to the deepest connection of the souls. Whether that connection is wrong or right, it is strong

SHE: Sex is that powerful?

COUNSELLOR: Yes. So powerful and yet people play around with it. There are people who struggle to enjoy the purity of sex because they are battling many soul ties with different people they slept with in the past. Sex makes your soul feel entitled to the soul of the person you are sexing, that is why infidelity in marriage is painful and hard to accept. You not only feel entitled but you are rightfully entitled to your spouse's body and it breaks you to know that soul you are entitled to is given to another

SHE: This is deep

COUNSELLOR: Sex is never about the size of the penis, the tightness of the vagina, the wetness or the duration of the act; that is a shallow way of looking at it. Sex is about a soul connection. Soul ties can be good when the one you are tied to is the one you are with and will be with for life. So people need to be careful who they tie themselves to. Some people struggle to sleep, they have nightmares, they are angry for no reason because of a soul tie to the wrong one. Sex with the wrong one can lead to confusion

SHE: So I am stuck with this past tie?

COUNSELLOR: Nope. You can cut the tie

SHE: How?

COUNSELLOR: Clean up your soul, clean up your spirit

SHE: How?

COUNSELLOR: When God is about to do something new, He speaks. So you who are created in the image of God, speak into the spiritual realm. Declare "I cut off this soul tie with my ex. From now on, I will not be connected with my past"

SHE: I will do that

COUNSELLOR: Saturate your life with the Holy Spirit. Fill your life with the Holy Spirit no matter your sexual past and you will be cleansed. The Holy Spirit and wrong soul ties cannot exist at the same time. Listen more to worship music. Read the word more. Watch the company you keep. Starve your flesh. Pray more, have a session of worship before you sleep as often as possible

SHE: Noted. That I will do too, thank you so much.

IN CONCLUSION 

COUNSELLOR: And finally, As couples, know that this type of situation is not peculiar to women alone of course men go through the same,make sure you build a deeper connection with your spouse.Go out on dates. Have emotional and intellectual intimacy. That means taking time to have stimulating conversations. Worship God together. Pray before sleeping. Make love more and make it creative and exciting.Be hungry for each other.Be naughty together.Flirt as a couple, let loose and make new experiences.The devil 👿 👿 👿 will be on the run.

Hope somebody is blessed? Happy Saturday.

Jane Itua Olowo Cares

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Mama Happy Married Life Cares

 MARRIAGE MEANS:

M=  Make Christ the foundation and head of your home .

A= Accept each other differences.

R= Respect your spouse.

R= Resist all attempts to destroy your home.

I= intercede for your family.

A= Avoid all forms of immorality and infidelity.

 

G= Guide your tongue always.

E= Enlist and prepare your family for the coming of the LORD.

That's marriage.

Jane Itua Olowo Cares

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MAMA HAPPY MARRIED LIFE CARES

 RELATIONSHIP RULES.

1. Unconditional Love ❤️: Love without expectations or conditions, just like your parents love you.

2. Prioritize Your Relationship 💯: Make your relationship your top priority and invest time and effort to make it better.

3. Open Communication💬: Keep communication channels open and honest, no matter how busy or tired you are.

4. Hug Often🤗: Hug each other daily to increase oxytocin (love hormone) and reduce cortisol (stress hormone).

5. Spontaneous Intimacy😘: Have impromptu sex to keep the excitement and intimacy alive.

6. Quality Time🕰️: Spend quality time together, whether on a date night or a quiet evening at home.

7. Honesty and Trust 🤝: Build trust through honesty and truthfulness, and learn each other's love language.

8. Constructive Criticism💡: Criticize to improve, not to hurt, and explain your intentions.

9. Stand Together🤝: Support each other during tough times and prove your love.

10. Appreciate Each Other🙏: Thank and appreciate each other for everything, no matter how small.

11. Celebrate Special Days 🎉: Remember and celebrate important days in your relationship.

12. Empathy and Understanding_ 🤗: Show empathy and understanding when your partner is stressed or upset.

13. Forgive and Forget 🙏: Forgive mistakes and forget about them to encourage mutual forgiveness.

14. Keep Promises_ 💯: Be trustworthy, reliable, and keep your promises to increase credibility.

15. Be Your Best💪: Give your best to the relationship, regardless of your partner's reaction.

Relationships are a journey, and following these rules can help you build a stronger, happier connection with your partner 💕.

 ❤️

Sam cares

 SIGNS OF IMMATURITY IN MARRIAGE FOR MEN:

1. Rejecting food when there's an issue:

Mr husband, you gave your wife money for

food and after it was prepared you refused

to eat because you are angry. It's one of the greatest signs of immaturity, it's time to grow up! You should not even abandon your home for any reason. You could go somewhere when angry but ensure that you don't allow it to linger unnecessarily because that is enough for the devil to build on even though some women can be really troublesome.

2. Telling your wife severally that you are the head:

May I let you know that even when your wife disobeys/ disrespect you she still knows that you are the head. You need not shout or scream it daily. Or do we need to get you a slot on CNN? It's important for you to know when and how to be firm and put your feet down over issues, however don't become a nagging husband just to prove that you are the head.

3. Issuing threats:

beating, verbally abusing

your wife, issuing threats of divorce or

bragging about marrying another wife does

not make you a man. An EMPTY barrel makes the loudest noise. Your strength is in your ability to tame your tongue and control your fist. When she is acting her "childish woman" part, play the "matured man."

4. Reporting your wife to friends and family:

When your wife offends you, correct

and talk things through. You don't have to tell everyone about her mistakes, that will paint her black and sell her cheap such that you will not be able to redeem her back.

By the way, are you a reporter answer my question ?

5. Keeping malice:

is it not funny to know that some men keep malice? Some of them even nag, criticise, abuse and call their wives names in public. It may make you look like a "big boy" who's in control but you are not going to gain anything good from it, your home will only be a den of insults and confrontations.

6. Not helping with house chores:

I must say here that it is the sole responsibility of a woman to tend and manage a home when she chooses to be a full time house wife.

However, it's not a bad thing if a man lends a helping hand when necessary. Watching football with newspaper in your hand every evening, not caring how stressful the house chores are will only increase the pressure on your wife and if you truly care you'll help, just checking on her while busy could encourage and sooth her, this also makes you a good example to the kids especially the boys. Some men don't even say "thank You" to their wives after eating, all they do is compare her with other women. It's a shame that after having 3-4 kids some men cannot change a simple diaper or

prepare cereal meals; a big shame.

My point?

A REAL man is a pillar of support to his wife, not a hole of depression.

Jane Itua Olowo Cares

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Mama Happy Married Life Cares

 Dear Bachelor

TESTING A LADY.

*( SHOW THIS TO YOUR ADULT SONS)*

Sir, you don't need to use dirty clothes to test a lady to know if she's hardworking.

Even if she visits you and your house is well arranged, everywhere sparkling clean, a hard working lady will still show herself.

A hard working lady shows herself in her work ethics, how she takes care of herself and her own space and how she handles the responsibilities she has in church, office, home, etc. 

A Submissive Lady doesn't need you to be bossy and difficult before she'll show her submission, submission doesn't respond to being bossy, if you like be a gentle and meek man, a submissive woman will still submit to you.

A rebellious or stubborn lady will still show herself, even if you are gentle with her. Character doesn't hide if you know how to look. 

A Lady who can manage can manage, even if you give her N50,000, she'll show her management skills, it's not only by testing her with N500 or poverty that you'll know if she can manage. 

Want to know a Good wife Material?

1) Check the Friends she Keeps.

Lions walk with Lions.

Dogs walk with Dogs. 

2) Check Her Mentors and Role Models.

An apple doesn't fall far form the tree.

3) Observe/Listen.

How she talks/relates to you and others,

How she talks about Authority and Superiors 

How she handles money issues

How she reacts when under pressure. 

Her ideologies about Love, Marriage, Men, Women, Life, etc

4) Her devotion to her God.

And most importantly PRAY.

Jane Itua Olowo Cares

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Mama Happy Married Life Cares

WISDOM FOR WIVES.....

IF YOU WANT TO BE ONE EMULATE THESE STEPS BELOW:

1). Never raise your voice for any reason to your husband. Its a sign of disrespect.

2).  Don't expose your husband's weaknesses to your family and friends. It will bounce back at you. You are each other's keeper.

3). Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your husband, you never know how your husband will interpret them. Defensive women don't have a happy home.

4). Never compare your husband to other men, you've no idea what their life is all about. If you attack his Ego, his Love for you will diminish.

5). Never ill treat your husband's friends because you don't like them, the person who's supposed to get rid of them is your husband.

6). Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else. Do your duties.

7). Never assign anyone to give attention to your husband, people may do everything else but your husband is your own responsibility.

8). Never blame your husband if he comes back home empty handed. Rather encourage him.

9). Never be a wasteful wife, your husband's sweat is too precious to be wasted.

10). Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your husband's right. You must give it to him how he wants it. It's very important to Men, if you keep denying him, it is a matter of time before another woman takes over that duty. No man can withstand on starvation for too long (even the anointed ones).

11). Never compare your husband to your one time Ex-lover. Your home may Never recover from it if you do.

12). Never answer for your husband in public opinion polls, let him handle what is directed to him although he may answer for you in public opinion polls.

13). Never shout or challenge your husband in front of children. Wise Women don't do that.

14). Don't forget to check the smartness of your husband before he checks out.

15). Never allow your friends to be too close to your husband.

16). Never be in a hurry in the bathroom and on the dressing table. Out there your husband is always surrounded by women who took their time on their looks.

17). Your parents or family or friends do not have the final say in your marriage. Don't waste your time looking up to them for a final word. You must Leave if you want to Cleave.

18). Never base your love on monetary things. Will you still submit to him even if you earn more money than him?

19). Don't forget that husbands want attention and good listeners, never be too busy for him. Good communication is the bed rock of every happy home.

20). If your idea worked better than his, never compare yourself to him. Its always team work.

21). Don't be too judgmental to your husband. No man wants a Nagging wife.

22). A lazy wife is a careless wife. She doesn't even know that her body needs a bath.

23). Does your husband like a kind of cooked food? Try to change your cooking. No man jokes with food.

24). Never be too demanding to your husband, enjoy every moment, resource as it comes.

25). Make a glass of water the very first welcome to your husband and everyone entering your home. Sweetness of attitude is true beauty.

26). Don't associate with women who have a wrong mental attitude about marriage.

27). Your marriage is as valuable to you as the value that you give it. Recklessness is unacceptable.

28) A confrontational wife, can never keep a good husband and her home, she will be grooming irresponsible daughters without manners.

29) A woman who cannot manage her children, home and  husband is a complete failure in life no matter her achievements.

30) A wise woman honors her husband, and respect him, in turn the husband will cherish her and love her dearly - it will be natural. Husband is a beautiful gift from God, no woman can stay without a husband. No good man on earth can tolerate a confrontational and argumentative wife except they have lost their value and become less of a real man.

31). Fruit of the womb is a blessing from the Lord, love your children and teach them well.

32). You are never too old to influence your home. Never reduce your care for your family for any reason.

33). A prayerful wife is very wise and intelligent and she  is a  better equipped wife, pray always for your husband and family. Conquer all your challenges and problems with prayers, only God can solve our problems - not parent, not scholars not anybody but, only God and then you.

You will not fail in marriage in Jesus name.

Jane Itua Olowo Cares

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Mama Happy Married Life Cares